Overdue reflection on Fall Semester 2023. Never give up!

This post is long overdue, and today I want to share a different side of myself with my students. More than just the mathematician who delves into axioms, proofs, calculus, and other intriguing mathematical concepts, I recently visited Brigham Young University to give a talk. This presentation, unlike my usual technical talks, was part of Math Circles within Dr. Michael Dorff's course. In the academic world, mathematicians are often perceived as intellectual beings effortlessly navigating life's challenges. However, mathematics is a human endeavor, and I decided to reveal a vulnerable side of myself, discussing the personal struggles in life, family dynamics, and the hurdles of job hunting, particularly after completing PhD and postdocs. This career, like many STEM paths, goes beyond mere intelligence; it requires patience, persistence, hard work, grit, and an unwavering commitment. I shared a poignant moment from my time as a visiting postdoc at ICERM (Brown), when I was still searching for a job to support my family. Many students approached me afterwards, expressing gratitude for sharing this personal story. The journey includes facing rejection, especially during on-campus interviews, and I emphasized the importance of growing from rejection, using it as fuel for personal growth. Dealing with rejection is a crucial aspect of this journey. I encouraged my students and colleagues to remember their worth, to never give up, and to understand that all professors and colleagues have encountered challenging times. This resonated with my students, fostering a disciplined approach throughout the semester. I aimed to influence them positively, emphasizing the importance of directing their efforts towards things they can control, rather than succumbing to distractions like excessive social media or constant cellphone use, which I referred to as mere noise. I urged them to cultivate independent thinking and form their own opinions, even if they differ from the majority. In essence, my message is clear: never give up and practice compassion. While possessing strong skills is advantageous, being a compassionate and supportive team player sets one apart. In the face of challenges, remember – you are amazing, and you will emerge stronger. Never forget that both success and resilience are part of every academic journey.